I don’t have a grand amount of sympathy for people who bring bad things upon themselves through disloyalty and dishonesty.
I have a ton of empathy because my life experiences are littered with the shrapnel of poor decisions at the expense of others’ trust and fidelity.
For me, it was always a lesson learned with all i ended up losing. I give hope for your own lesson learned. That’s about all the sympathy I can muster.