For a peer, the capacity to say “No” and hold firm is essential to mental wellness.
When someone says “No, I don’t want to talk”, this doesn’t mean they’re not being accountable, this doesn’t mean they’re not taking responsibility, this doesn’t mean they’re selfish.
This means they know what conversations are important for them.
This means someone’s leaving disappointed, and perhaps frustrated and unhappy as well.
If in this situation myself, I side with “Better you than me.” My wellness is my priority.
No obligations. No entitlements. No expectations. No disappointments.