I put on a few-ish pounds of “winter coat” that I’m diligently exercising away. A friend told me “You’re obsessed with losing weight and the way you look!”
I agree with “obsessed” because I’m highly motivated in everything important to me. I disagree with “obsessed with how I look.” If anything, I’m “obsessed with how I FEEL.”
Keep your baseless guilt for yourself, friend of mine. I’m going for a hike now.